My mum has dementia

[Tinateaspoon]

My mum was diagnosed with mild alzheimers/vascular dementia last year. Last week she drastically went downhill. She wasn't making sense, seeing and talking to my dad who passed away nearly 2 years ago, couldn't walk and was so confused. We thought she was dehydrated or had a UTI so an ambulance was called. Shes been in hospital ever since although now in the rehab ward. I facetimed her today and she looked so scared and is wary of everyone saying they have imprisoned her. Its breaking my heart as she is going to need to go into a home as she can't ho home and her home is so cold too. Although my heart is telling me its the right decision my head is feeling so guilty as I know this is something she never wanted. How fo I get through this?

 

[Wayne76]

Hi Tina, I have just read this and hope you got through that really difficult time. I can totally sympathise. We had to make the same decision for my dad and it was heartbreaking but was absolutely the right thing to do. It's not easy and I know it's not what we would choose for them in an ideal world, but as you say, you know it was the right decision and you were being a brilliant daughter by putting her needs first. I hope it all worked out for you, sending you strength. x